True so true…

"You know the rule… Good on paper, bad in bed" 

- Samantha Jones, Sex in the City

Single for the holidays?

Did you know that November has the highest brake-up rate out of all of the months of the year?  Some speculate that it's the gloomy weather, others think it's that the holidays are fast approaching & people decide this month if they really want to spend the holidays with their current significant other.   

It's argued that a partner will wait to end the relationship (if the couple makes is through November) until after the new year so they don't have to spend the holidays alone.  Family holiday functions alone, Christmas parties without a date, no significant other to exchange Christmas presents with & no NYE kiss does sound pretty brutal, I admit, but doesn't the thought of dragging on a relationship you know it's going anywhere sound even worse?  

Seems as though everyone I know is having relationship woes this month (Coincidence?).  Talking to a girlfriend today, she was telling me about her current relationship that she knows isn't going anywhere.  He's much older, parties too much, isn't finically responsible & has commitment issues (I can't even count all the red flags).  Even though she's well aware that this isn't going anywhere, she continues to spend all of her free time with him because she has fun with him, & likes the affection & company.  

FUN doesn't get you a long term, happy, healthy relationship, sister.  I think that most girls are guilty of doing this, too.  We're so scared to be alone that we stay with losers?  Think about this…

Every party, function, bar, club, etc. you go to with your current guy… you're giving up the opportunity to talk to someone amazing who potentially could be the right one for you.  Maybe going to that holiday party single doesn't sound like a bad idea after all…

Why Men Love BITCHES

I am a firm believer that all women should read this book.  I've purchased many copies over the last few years & given it to girlfriends who are in a bad relationship or having self esteem issues.   This book literally changed how I viewed dating & relationships, as I was once TOO NICE.  Now, I understand that men love the chase & you are a prize.  When you shower him with affection instantly & are too available, you're no longer the viewed as a prize in his eyes.  Make him work for everything you give him & he'll cherish everything he's receives.  

Some of my favorite principles:

Attraction Principle #3: A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100% hold on her.

Attraction Principle #8: The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.

Attraction Principle #15: Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.

Attraction Principle #20: He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.
Attraction Principle #33: When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way.

Attraction Principle #36: The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters.

Attraction Principle #50: The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.

Attraction Principle #52: When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention.

Attraction Principle #77: You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.

Attraction Principle #100: The most attractive quality of all is dignity.